To the Reader: The bible rightly proclaims that: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4 NKJV) Which first of all means that marriage is good and sexual intimacy is not to be viewed as dirty, defiling or unholy. And next, know for sure that God will punish both those who violate this relationship and who commit sexual immorality as well. So, let us who are married embrace our union as an institution that God created for us. Let’s bring him glory and honor by embracing each other whether in good times or bad, in sickness or in health, until death do us part. Amen.

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh." (Genesis 2:24 NASB20)

When talking about marriage, we must first stand on God’s word concerning what constitutes a marriage. For if we would look closely at the passage above, we would clearly see that it says that a man shall “be joined to his wife.” God at the very beginning instituted the marriage relationship as it should be. For we read: “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” (Genesis 1:28) Therefore, only through the male and female union can we see a true marriage taking place. For its only through this act that a couple can bring forth new life into this world.

Now according to bible, we see that God created woman from the man. For they were specifically designed by God for each other for life. Therefore, anything else would be a sinful relationship and one which God has not joined together. This would include not only homosexual relationships, but those who are committing adultery or fornicating with someone they’re not truly married to. More on this below.

"For I hate divorce," says the LORD, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence," says the LORD of armies. "So be careful about your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously." (Malachi 2:16 NASB20)

Marriage is meant to be for a lifetime according to God’s word. However, we can see so many marriages breaking up for one reason or another. And why is that? Are we believing the lies of Satan that says “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence?” For those who believe this will most likely never be happy with any relationship they’re in. Yes, we may have some lumps and bumps along the way. For even Paul the apostle said: “But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.” (1 Corinthians 7:28 KJV) Yes, there is going to be some trying times during your relationship. However, by walking after the Holy Spirit and resisting the lies of the devil, couples can make it through even the most difficult of times. For: “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13 ESV)

And finally, let’s take heed to the word that Jesus spoke to the Pharisees, for he said: “But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, ‘and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. ‘Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate’.” (Mark 10:6-9 NKJV) This Jesus said while confronting them on the evils of divorce. For they first challenged Jesus by saying that: “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her." (Mark 10:4 NKJV) However, Jesus straitens the whole thing out by saying: “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept’.” (Mark 10:5 NKJV) So again, marriage is to be for life according to both God and Jesus himself. Therefore, “love the one you're with” and resist the temptations that say otherwise. Amen.

For a more in-depth look at divorce and remarriage, click the links below:

• Divorce & Remarriage - Article
• Divorce & Remarriage – Dr. Mike Gorrie
• Divorce & Remarriage – Joseph Webb
• Putting Away an Adulterous Marriage

“Let them be only your own, And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress?” (Proverbs 5:17-20 NKJV)

In that passage above, we can see that the marriage relationship should be delightful. For God created marriage and wants us not only to express our love to one another through it, but to richly enjoy it as well. Now, those of us who are married should know that the sexual act between a man and a woman can bring about the most intense physical pleasure. And it’s for a good reason. For it’s one of those pleasures of life that brings forth new life into this world. So, this being the case, doesn’t it make sense that God would make it intensely pleasurable? And let’s also remember that we ourselves are here because our parents (whether they were married or not) had a sexual encounter as well. So, however we came into this world, let's thank God we’re here. For we can take what may have been a bad situation and turn it into a blessing instead. I say this because I have seen it happen myself.

“Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?” (Matthew 19:4-5 KJV)

Now, there are studies that mention women receiving a man's DNA during sex. This would be true however she receives his semen into her body. They also mention about the components of his semen being detected within her blood stream a few hours after her receiving it. (see the links below for these studies). That would make the words of Jesus above not just some metaphor but an actual fact. Also, studies have shown that exposer to the man's semen could help lessen the chances of a miscarriage. That all being said, we can see why it’s important for a woman to expose herself to her husband’s semen before and even after conception. (More on this below)

Therefore, we need to do our homework and be diligent, not only by studying God's word, but to do some research on what science and medical studies have to say as well.

"All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things build up." (1 Corinthians 10:23 LSB)

So, as said before, what happens in the bedroom should not be viewed as dirty or defiling. However, not all couples are at the same level of faith when it comes to sexual intimacy. For some couples may limit themselves to the simple basics of sex. And on the other hand, there are those whose faith may allow them to have more freedom in the marriage bed. In either case, we need to be careful not to put a stumbling block nor a guilt trip on others. Therefore, those who limit themselves to the simple basics shouldn’t condemn those who do otherwise. And in the same way, those who have more freedom shouldn’t criticize those who don’t. For we need to take heed to what God’s word says and leave all judgment up to God. For it’s before Him that we stand or fall; and according to his word, he will make us stand. So, wherever your faith may allow you to go, give glory and thanks to God for it. Amen.

• Now accept the one who is weak in faith, but not for the purpose of passing judgment on his opinions. ... Who are you to judge the servant of another? To his own master he stands or falls; and he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand. ... Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this--not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother's way. I know and am convinced in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself; but to him who thinks anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean. ... The faith which you have, have as your own conviction before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what he approves. (Romans 14:1, 4, 13-14, 22 NASB95)

“Then he said to the woman, "I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you." (Genesis 3:16 NLT)

Now, because of Adam and Eve's sin, troubles came into the lives of us all. And some of these issues can include couples struggling with sexual issues as well. This would include not only miscarriages but other problems as well such as erectile dysfunctions or trouble conceiving a child. Therefore, these couples would have to come up with ways to make sex work for them. And as said earlier, we shouldn’t judge any couple on how they enjoy sex, for God knows our struggles and issues. And in my personnel studies of the bible, I found only one sexual act that is forbidden between married couples and that’s found in Leviticus 20:18. For it says: “If a man has sexual relations with a woman during her monthly period, he has exposed the source of her flow, and she has also uncovered it. Both of them are to be cut off from their people.” (Leviticus 20:18 NIV) This would make sense because it’s not only gross, but also very unclean and could cause urinary tract infections.

Now, for those of you who are struggling with conceiving a child. Let’s remember that Abraham and Sarah as well as Zachariah and Elizabeth still engaging in sex even in their old age. (Genesis 21:1-2, Luke 1:24 KJV) For we know from the Bible that both these couples were finally blessed with a child. And for those couples who may never be able to have children, there is always the option to adopt a child. So, whatever your outcome or age may be, don’t stop enjoying sex with your spouse. For God will always make a way for us, no matter what difficulties we may be facing. We just need faith.

So, that all being said, if you’re one who is struggling in this area of sex, do some research for yourselves. See what God’s word says concerning the liberties that you and your spouse may have in the marriage bed. For “All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things build up.” (1 Corinthians 10:23 LSB) Yes, all things that are beneficial may be lawful if it’s not restricted in God’s word. But again, only go where your faith will allow you to go. (See links at the bottom of this page for help with way to cope with miscarriages and other sexual dysfunctions.)

I would like to point out that there is health factors involved in sex for both the man and woman. For science studies have mentioned that semen contains components that may help enhance a woman’s mood. Also as said before, it may help provide a safer pregnancy as well. And for the man that keeps sexually active, studies mention that it may help fight-off prostate cancer as well. So, “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV) Therefore, married couples should make an effort to keep sexually active, whether they're young newlyweds or well advanced in years.

Now, I have found that God’s word can be is like a puzzle. For it is put together in such a way to cause us to study and piece things together to get the big picture. Therefore, we can rely on it for everything that pertains to life, both past, present and even our future. Now, though my studies I've found that God has provided ways for us to function even in our infirmities. And as already mentioned above, one of those areas we may struggle in would include sexual intimacy. Because let’s face it, there are some of you who may not always have a normal sexual relationship. Therefore, you may need to find ways to make your time of intimacy not only beneficial and pleasurable, but fruitful in bringing forth children as well. For God “giveth us richly all things to enjoy.” (1 Timothy 6:17 KJV).

So, since there are studies out there that suggest some health benefits to sex, let's keep sexually active throughout our lives. So as said before: “All things are permitted, but not all things are of benefit. All things are permitted, but not all things build people up.” (1 Corinthians 10:23 NASB20) So, if it’s beneficial for you, who are we to judge what you do. Just make sure whatever you do, you do it with a right frame of mind and in a way that is pleasing to the Lord. Amen.

As mentioned at the beginning, the marriage relationship should be one that consists of love and pleasure for both the man and woman. For again, God does “giveth us richly all things to enjoy.” (1Timathy 6:17 KJV) But again, we should be so wrapped up in ourselves that we forget that there is a world who desperately needs Jesus. For Paul reminds us of this by saying: “But this I say, brethren, the time is short, so that from now on even those who have wives should be as though they had none, those who weep as though they did not weep, those who rejoice as though they did not rejoice, those who buy as though they did not possess, and those who use this world as not misusing it. For the form of this world is passing away.” (1 Corinthians 7:29-31 NKJV)

God bless you as you seek to do His will.

Below are a few scriptures taken from Song of Songs showing a couple's desire for each other:

• The man speaks: “As a lily among thorns, So is my love among the daughters. (Song of Songs 2:2 ASV)
• The woman speaks: “Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. He has brought me to his banquet hall, and his banner over me is love.” (Song of Songs 2:2-4 NASB20)
• The man speaks: “A garden enclosed is my sister, my spouse, a spring shut up, a fountain sealed. Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with pleasant fruits, fragrant henna with spikenard, spikenard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, With all trees of frankincense, myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices - A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon.” (Song of Songs 4:12-15 NKJV)
• The woman speaks: “Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits. (Song of Songs 4:16)
• The man speaks: “I am come into my garden, my sister, my spouse: I have gathered my myrrh with my spice; I have eaten my honeycomb with my honey; I have drunk my wine with my milk: eat, O friends; drink, yea, drink abundantly, O beloved.” (Song of Songs 5:1)
• The woman speaks: “My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand. His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven. His eyes are as the eyes of doves by the rivers of waters, washed with milk, and fitly set. His cheeks are as a bed of spices, as sweet flowers: his lips like lilies, dropping sweet smelling myrrh. His hands are as gold rings set with the beryl: his belly is as bright ivory overlaid with sapphires. His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars.” (Song of Songs 5:10-15)
• The man speaks: “How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights! This thy stature is like to a palm-tree, And thy breasts to its clusters. I said, I will climb up into the palm-tree, I will take hold of the branches thereof: Let thy breasts be as clusters of the vine, And the smell of thy breath like apples.” (Song of Songs 7:6-8) Please note: To this day there a those who help get the pollination process going by climbing up the date palms trees. For there is both a male tree as well as a female tree. Thus, by taking a portion of the male pollen, they can dust the female palm tree with it. (Song of Songs 7:6-8) So, we can see a clear picture of a man engaging his wife in sex. Click this link to see a video on Date Palm pollination: Click here to see a video on Date Palm pollination in action

Below is some helpful information concerning sex. These are articles and medical studies that show not only the benefits for both the man and the woman, but for any future children (including the one in the womb) as well:
 

• Mood Enhancer 
• Sex for older couples
• How to conceive when dealing with Erectile dysfunction
• Women receive and retain male DNA through sex - Article 1
• Women receive and retain male DNA through sex - Article 2
• Women receive and retain male DNA through sex - Video
• Sex for a safer pregnancy - Article 1
• Sex for a safer pregnancy - Article 2
• Ejaculation Frequency for a healthy prostate
• Science behind Ejaculation Frequency - Is it actually better?
• Benefits of Circumcision - Article 1
• Benefits of Circumcision - Article 2
• Is Masturbation a Sin?

Below are some other Christian websites and articles on sex and marital intimacy:

• theforgivenwife.com
• daveandashleywillis.com
• Sex in Marriage
• Intimacy in Marriage
• Becoming "One Flesh" video
• Divorce & Remarriage

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Then God said, “Let Us make mankind in Our image, according to Our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the livestock and over all the earth, and over every crawling thing that crawls on the earth.” So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. (Genesis 1:26-27)

From the creation account above, I do believe that there was a natural unity and harmony between the man and the woman. And there in the garden, we can see from God's word that man was a vegetarian and ate from the fruit trees and vegetables as well. Also, we can also see that there was no fear between man and the animals. But most of all, it was that beautiful relationship that man had with God. For Adam and Eve were not yet tainted by the evil desires of sin.

Now for starters, I would like to be clear and say that both the man and the woman are created in God’s image as quoted above. So, this shows that the man and the woman are equal in nature. We are all one in Christ Jesus, for “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28). However, there are differences between our God given roles that he bestowed upon us. For in nature itself, we can see that the males are generally larger and stronger than the females. This would naturally place the males in a place of dominance and rule over the females. But again, this is not inferring that one is better than the other.

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. (Genesis 3:16)

According to that passage above, the woman’s desire is going to be for her husband. We can see this same wording in chapter 4 of Genesis where we read: “And Jehovah said to Cain, Why have you angrily glowed? And why did your face fall? If you do well, shall you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin crouches at the door; and its desire is for you, and you shall rule over it.” (Genesis 4:6-7) So wouldn’t this word “desire” in these two passages be speaking of having ones will and way over someone else? Therefore, this wouldn’t mean a sexual desire on the woman’s part, but instead it would indicate that she would try to control her husband, just as sin wants to control us. Because let’s remember that God told Adam and Eve to be “fruitful and multiply” before the fall. So, it should come to reason that they already had a sexual desire for one another.

Therefore, brothers and sisters in Christ, let us not believe that before the fall there was no male dominance over the female. For God’s word clearly says: “Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.” (1 Timothy 2:11-14) Also, we have Paul in his first letter to the Corinthians reminding them of the creation order by saying: “For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” (1 Corinthians 11:8-9)

So, let’s be diligent to stand on the truth of God’s Word. For we shouldn’t try to water it down with our own theology or feelings. Because there seems to be this urge to twist or bend scripture in such a way that it would be appealing to all. (2 Peter 3:15-16) And why is this? Could it be because we’re so afraid of offending people? And It’s no wonder why we have such disorder in the church today as well as in our homes? It’s time we stand up for the truth of God’s Word and take our rightful places in life. This should be true for both the man and the woman. Because to do otherwise would only be thwarting a divine commandment of God. Therefore, God says to all women both in the past and in the present that: “he shall rule over you.” (Genesis 3:16) Amen.

References Passages:

• But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
• Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24)
• Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. (1 Timothy 2:11-14)
• For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. (1 Peter 3:5-6)

Commentary References:

• If man had not sinned, he would always have ruled with wisdom and love; and, if the woman had not sinned, she would always have obeyed with humility and meekness; and then the dominion would have been no grievance: but our own sin and folly make our yoke heavy. If Eve had not eaten forbidden fruit herself, and tempted her husband to eat it, she would never have complained of her subjection; therefore it ought never to be complained of, though harsh; but sin must be complained of, that made it so. Those wives who not only despise and disobey their husbands, but domineer over them, do not consider that they not only violate a divine law, but thwart a divine sentence. By Matthew Henry, Who is Matthew Henry? | Matthew Henry | Learn to Pray the Bible
• “Your desire shall be for your husband.” Now let’s talk about the word “desire.” What does it mean? It’s an interesting word, it comes from an Arabic root and I have continued to survey this passage because it’s been a passage of some controversy. But it is of Arabic root meaning to seek control. Literally it could read, “You shall seek control over your husband...you will desire to exert your will,” that is a sign of the curse, “you will desire to take charge, to be in control, to master.” And that desire shows up in various women in various ways. In some of them it’s a quiet, silent desire that smolders, with others it is a shouting desire that isn’t much of a secret to anybody. And the more godless women are, very often the more hostile they are toward men. Sometimes that hostility takes the attitude of coldness, indifference, apathy. Because she can’t achieve what she wants, she eventually becomes totally indifferent and apathetic toward the man. But there is this desire, this seeking to have one’s own way, to get control. That’s why there have been through history always Feminist Movements, always. Even in the time of the Apostle Paul. I read some fascinating things about the time of the Apostle Paul. There was a liberation of women movement going on in the world of the Apostle Paul. Women were shaving their heads and going around bare chested with spears in their hands and trying to prove that they can do everything men did. There has always been that kind of movement in history because it’s reflective of this curse. The man has to deal with the fact that his wife wants to control him. By John Macarthur, Grace to You (gty.org)
• Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you: The idea is to contrast the woman’s desire and the husband’s rule over her. This speaks of an inherent challenge in embracing the husband’s role as leader of the home and family. i. This same word for desire is used in Genesis 4:7 of the desire of sin to master over Cain. Because of the curse, Eve would have to fight a desire to master her husband, a desire that works against God’s ordained order for the home. ii. The principle of Adam’s headship as a husband was established before the fall (see Genesis 2:18 and 2:22). Now the curse on Eve makes it much harder for her to submit and flow with God’s institution of male headship in the home. By David Guzik, Enduring Word - Free Bible Commentary from Pastor David Guzik

And this is a second thing you have done, covering the altar of Jehovah with tears, weeping, and groaning, yet not facing toward the food offering, and taking it with delight from your hand. Yet you say, Why? Because Jehovah has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your covenant wife. (Malachi 2:13-14)

It is obvious from this scripture above that God hates divorce. We can see this to be true as well in Matthew’s gospel which reads: “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marries her which is put away doth commit adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) So, if a man puts away his faithful wife, it would not only show a lack of honor for her, but would put her in danger of committing adultery as well. Peter said to those of us who are husbands: “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7) So, just because the man has a God given authority over his wife does not mean that she is to be looked down upon or to be treated as inferior.

Now in Proverbs 31:10-31, it says that a virtuous woman is prized far above rubies and is a blessing to her husband. And let’s also remember that, “Whoever finds a wife finds good and gets favor from Jehovah.” (Proverbs 18:22) So, a woman is to be honored and loved by her husband. For she is a person that is precious and is just as important in the eyes of God as any man. Amen.

• Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (Ephesians 5:25)
• So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: (Ephesians 5:28-29)

But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. (1 Timothy 5:8)

We already read earlier that the man is to be the head over his wife and children. Therefore, they must be in subjection unto him in all things. So then, a man should also be the main provider for his household as well according to that passage above. For he must do all he can to make sure there is food on the table, a shelter over their heads and clothing on their backs. Of course, the wife plays an important part in this as well. However, the man must make sure that these things for his family can be meet. In fact, for him to neglect these things would only cause him to be worse than an unbeliever according to above. And let’s also remember that Gods word condemns laziness and anyone who is a slacker. For, “He also that is slothful in his work is brother to him that is a great waster.” (Proverbs 18:9)

Now, I don’t believe that God is condemning those men who are struggling to make ends meet. For sometimes things happen that can put people into predicaments that are out of their control. But in all things, God will help meet their needs if they trust and rely on Him. So, let us men do our best to love our wives according to scripture and teach are children truth. This we must do without being harsh or provoking them to anger. For God’s word says: “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)

Of course, we must not overlook the other roles that should only be done by men. This would include their involvement in the military as well as the police force. These roles should only be done by qualified men who are called to defend both their country and community. I say this because in the bible we read that all military actions were performed by only men. For we read: “Take a census of all the congregation of the people of Israel, by clans, by fathers' houses, according to the number of names, every male, head by head. From twenty years old and upward, all in Israel who are able to go to war, you and Aaron shall list them, company by company. ... So all those listed of the people of Israel, by their fathers’ houses, from twenty years old and upward, every man able to go to war in Israel - all those listed were 603,550.” (Numbers 1:2-3, 45-46)

• Then the officers shall speak to the people, saying, ‘Is there any man who has built a new house and has not dedicated it? Let him go back to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man dedicate it. And is there any man who has planted a vineyard and has not enjoyed its fruit? Let him go back to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man enjoy its fruit. And is there any man who has betrothed a wife and has not taken her? Let him go back to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man take her.’ And the officers shall speak further to the people, and say, ‘Is there any man who is fearful and fainthearted? Let him go back to his house, lest he make the heart of his fellows melt like his own.’” (Deuteronomy 20:5-8)

Older women likewise are to exhibit behavior fitting for those who are holy, not slandering, not slaves to excessive drinking, but teaching what is good. In this way they will train the younger women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be self-controlled, pure, fulfilling their duties at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the message of God may not be discredited. (Titus 2:3-5)

According the scripture above, older women should be passing on to the younger women the important role of being keepers of the home. However, we see the opposite happening in our generation today. For young women are being shipped off to pursue a degree in some collage. Then, when these same women do marry and become mothers, they end up sending their young children off to some daycare so that they can continue working their career jobs. All this is not consistent with God’s word. For they should they be at home raising and instilling Godly values to their young children instead of letting someone else teach them who know what? Even the military as well as the police force has opened its doors to woman which goes against nature itself. For woman are to bring life into this world, not to take it out.

Unfortunately, this is all part of the fall of mankind. For there are those women who feel they need to prove that they are equal to men within the workforce. But the truth of it is, a woman’s role in the home is more vital and important that anything she can pursue outside it. For she has the God given role to: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6) So ladies, what job can be more important than that? Therefore, there is no need to prove yourselves. For the role that you were created for is a blessing from God.

Now, I don’t believe that being “keepers at home” means that a mother must only stay within the confines of their home. For there are family own businesses which they can be a part of and help to run. This also would be a great way for their children to get involved, teaching them from a very early age how to be fruitful and productive in life. And there are also those women who choose to be single or have not married yet. These same women can get involved in jobs within their community such as working in nursing home or waiting on tables to name a few. But again, this would all depend on their situation at home. For if a mother or single woman is needed to stay at home, they should forsake whatever job their doing and attended to their family first. (Please note: Back in the day, children were included within the work force. This groomed them to be productive citizens who will become fruitful in our society. However, our corrupt system thinks it’s better for them to play nonsense video games instead which teaches them violence and evil)

Now, that all being said, I do realize that our current world system (at least here in America) has made it hard for couples to make it financially with only one person working outside of the home. Unfortunately, we have brought this upon ourselves because of greed. A get rich and let’s retire early mentality can bring a family and nation to ruin. However, as said before, a woman’s first priority is always to be there for her children as well as for her husband. This is not a commandment from me but from God word as we see quoted above in Titus 2:3-5.

Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. (1 Timothy 2:11-14)

It is very clear, both in the Old Testament as well as the New, that the leadership positions in the church are to be held only by men. For this is true as quoted above and also where we read: “Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.” (1 Corinthians 14:34-35)

Now, if we look at the Old Testament, we can see that all the priestly positions were only held by men, not woman. For we read: “And take thou unto thee Aaron thy brother, and his sons with him, from among the children of Israel, that he may minister unto me in the priest's office, even Aaron, Nadab and Abihu, Eleazar and Ithamar, Aaron's sons. (Exodus 28:1) Likewise, if we look at the New Testament Church, we can see that all twelve of the apostles were men whom Jesus personally chose. So, if Jesus wanted to have women in leadership positions in the New Testament church, wouldn’t he at least have chosen one woman, perhaps maybe Mary Magdalen. But it is clear from Paul’s letters that no woman should take on any form of leadership position within the church assembly. This I believe would be true even if the group is made up of only women.

That being all said, the scriptures do teach that women can take part within the church as prophets and deacons. For we can see that a woman deacon: “must be serious, no slanderers, but temperate, faithful in all things. (1 Timothy 3:11 RSV) Now it must be understood that this word deacon does not mean a church leader or teacher but one who serves in the church, whether they are a man or a woman. We can see this to be true from Acts 6:3 where Stephen was appointed as a deacon in the church to serve tables. However, it never mentions him as a leader or elder in the church.

• And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams: And on my servants and on my handmaidens I will pour out in those days of my Spirit; and they shall prophesy: And I will shew wonders in heaven above, and signs in the earth beneath; blood, and fire, and vapor of smoke: The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before that great and notable day of the Lord come: And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved. (Acts 2:17-21)
• “I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a deaconess of the church at Cen'chre-ae, that you may receive her in the Lord as befits the saints, and help her in whatever she may require from you, for she has been a helper of many and of myself as well. (Romans 16:1-2 RSV)

Now, I know that some of you may be thinking about Deborah, who was: “a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, she judged Israel at that time. And she dwelt under the palm tree of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in mount Ephraim: and the children of Israel came up to her for judgment.” (Judges 4:4-5) So, while it is true that she was holding these two positions, this still wouldn’t qualify her to be a priest or a religious teacher. Prophets speak as God gives them utterance and Judges administer justice. But that doesn't give them license to take on roles which were not assigned to them. “For every high priest taken from among men is ordained for men in things pertaining to God, that he may offer both gifts and sacrifices for sins: Who can have compassion on the ignorant, and on them that are out of the way; for that he himself also is compassed with infirmity.” (Hebrews 5:1-2)

And let’s remember that even King Saul, who was an anointed King in Israel, got into trouble for taking on the duties of a Priest. “And Samuel said to Saul, Thou hast done foolishly; thou hast not kept the commandment of Jehovah thy God, which he commanded thee: for now would Jehovah have established thy kingdom upon Israel forever. But now thy kingdom shall not continue: Jehovah hath sought him a man after his own heart, and Jehovah hath appointed him to be prince over his people, because thou hast not kept that which Jehovah commanded thee.” (1 Samuel 13:13-14) So, even though Saul was King of Israel, he still had no authority to take on the role of a priest, thus he was removed from being the King.

Commentary References:

• But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. (1 Timothy 2:12-14).
• Paul the apostle restricts women from serving as teaching and/or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors over men and women, which definitely includes preaching to them, teaching them publicly, and exercising spiritual authority over them.....Did Priscilla and her husband teach the gospel of Jesus Christ to Apollos? Yes, in their home they “explained to him the way of God more adequately” (Acts 18:26). Does the Bible ever say that Priscilla pastored a church or taught publicly or became the spiritual leader of a congregation of saints? No. As far as we know, Priscilla was not involved in ministry activity in contradiction to (1 Timothy 2:11–14). In Romans 16:1, Phoebe is called a “deacon” (or “servant”) in the church and is highly commended by Paul. But, as with Priscilla, there is nothing in Scripture to indicate that Phoebe was a pastor or a teacher of men or even of women in the church. “Able to teach” is given as a qualification for elders, but not for deacons (1 Timothy 3:1–13; Titus 1:6–9). The structure of 1 Timothy 2:11–14 makes the reason why women cannot be pastors perfectly clear. Verse 13 begins with “for,” giving the “cause” of Paulʼs statement in verses 11–12. Why should women not teach or have authority over men? Because “Adam was created first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived” (verses 13–14). God created Adam first and then created Eve to be a “helper” for Adam. The order of creation has universal application in the family (Ephesians 5:22–33) and in the church. Many women excel in gifts of hospitality, mercy, teaching, evangelism, and helps. Much of the ministry of the local church depends on women deacons. Women in the church are not restricted from public praying or prophesying (1 Corinthians 11:5), only from having spiritual teaching authority over men and women within the confines of a church. The Bible nowhere restricts women from exercising the gifts of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 12). Women, just as much as men, are called to minister to others, to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23), and to proclaim the gospel to the lost (Matthew 28:18–20; Acts 1Y8; 1 Peter 3:15). God has ordained that only men are to serve in positions of spiritual teaching authority in the church...... Men are to set the example in spiritual leadership—in their lives and through their words. Women are to take a less authoritative role. Women are encouraged to teach younger women their roles in life (Titus 2:3–5). The Bible also does not restrict women from teaching children. The only activity women are restricted from is teaching or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors to men. This does not make women less important, by any means, but rather gives them a ministry focus more in agreement with Godʼs plan and His gifting of them. - Two Views on Women in Ministry, Revised by James R. Beck, ed. and Logos Bible Software. (Gotquestions.org)
• On the sabbath day--the first after their arrival, as the words imply - we went out of the city--rather, as the true reading is, "outside of the (city) gate." - by a river-side--one of the small streams which gave name to the place ere the city was founded by Philip of Macedon. - where prayer was wont to be made--or a prayer-meeting held. It is plain there was no synagogue at Philippi (contrast Act 17:1 ), the number of the Jews being small. The meeting appears to have consisted wholly of women, and these not all Jewish. The neighborhood of streams was preferred, on account of the ceremonial washings used on such occasions - we sat down and spake unto the women, &c.--a humble congregation, and simple manner of preaching. But here and thus were gathered the first-fruits of Europe unto Christ, and they were of the female sex, of whose accession and services honorable mention will again and again be made. (Jamieson, Fausset & Brown Commentary on Acts 16:13)

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To the Reader: It is my intention to remind you, my fellow Christians, of what God’s word says concerning raising children. For we are to teach them straight from the womb to know God and to be respectable citizens. That’s because the first few years of a child’s life are the most important in their development. Therefore, whether you’re a parent, grandparent, older sibling, babysitter, teacher, or one who has the opportunity to say a few words of wisdom, we should: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)God help us all to do just that. Amen.

“That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded. In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.” (Titus 2:2-8)

According to that passage above, we should be teaching our children God’s truths. This we must do by educating them to be fruitful and productive individuals. Young boys at a very early age should be nurtured and guided for a future career that will help them be able to support a family as well as be beneficial to their society. Likewise, young girls should be taught what it takes to be a good wife and how to raise a family. But most of all, we should be teaching them about our Awesome God and Creator, showing them from birth what Christianity is all about. This can even start when they're still in the womb, singing and reading the bible out loud to them. And let’s not forget to cover them in prayers as well.

But what’s really happening in our homes? Well, there are those mindless video games and action movies that put nonsense and violence into kids’ heads. And then we wonder why our youth are numb to violence and are killing each other in schools. Also, there are those silly cartoons, kid shows, Disney movies, and foolish games that they’re being entertained with. Parents as well as our society are teaching and training children to be a bunch of goofballs instead of nurturing them to be productive citizens. Unfortunately, we can see our world starting to reflect this nonsense that’s being taught. And yes, let’s not forget about the Smart Phone addiction that’s captivating not only our youth, but many adults as well. And if that’s not bad enough, we now got a society that’s not only confused over their own gender, but they’re brainwashing young children to be confused over theirs as well.

So, God’s word say to all parents: “And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be upon thy heart; and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thy house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thy hand, and they shall be for frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the door-posts of thy house, and upon thy gates.” (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)

Below are a few website concerning child development in their early years:

• https://www.firstthingsfirst.org/early-childhood-matters/brain-development/

Now, let’s consider the child Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart (whom we know as Mozart). He, even at the age of four, not only already new how to play different instruments, such as the piano and the violin, but also composed his first piano concerto. Leopold Mozart, who was his father and teacher, regarded the blots of ink put down on paper by the unskilled hand of a child with disbelief, realizing that all notes were correctly arranged following contemporary musical rules. From this time on he also taught his son the art of composing: Wolfgang played the melodies on the piano and his father put the notes down on paper. Wolfgang also himself enjoyed singing, a passion that would be his companion for the rest of his life.

So, I don't think this child was fed a bunch of nonsense like most kids get today, but was trained in the “way he should go.” And we can see this to be true with Johann Sebastian Bach and George Frederic Handel as well. All these men were not only musicians at a young age, but were involved with the church of their day. Therefore, fellow Christians, let’s STOP raising our children on worldly nonsense. For we need to raise them as productive citizens who will bare much fruit in this life.

Are you one of those parents who thinks that some soccer or baseball camp is going to make your child a better person? And if so, in what way? Don’t you realize that competition sports are built on pride, the same thing that brought down Satan? For we read: “How art thou fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! how art thou cut down to the ground, which didst weaken the nations! For thou hast said in thine heart, I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north: I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will be like the Most High. Yet thou shalt be brought down to hell, to the sides of the pit. (Isaiah 14:12-15)

So, isn’t this true in a sense with competition sports as well? For don’t you defeat the other to show that you are better and greater that they are? Don’t be deceived, why else would you do it? It’s all pride and arrogance people! Therefore, by allowing your children to get involved in competition sports would only build up their ego and pride. This we know is the very thing that God hates. So again, teach them in the way they should go as mentioned earlier.

Also, let’s beware and not forget how many of our youth have died in football alone. Click the link below for more information on this.

• “Sports idolatry”

Now, we come to the important subject of disciplining our children. For it seems our society today thinks it knows better than God on how to correct children. For His word tells us not to spare the rod of correction, for in applying it you’re actually showing more love than you would if you withheld it. But unfortunately, you can get into big trouble if you take a switch to your child these days. Again, this is because of our corrupt governmental system that thinks they know better than God. But the truth is, all of us were born sinners. Therefore, we need to discipline our children when they get out of hand. For: “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15) So that being said, let’s stop encouraging are children in the ways of foolishness and instead make them sound Godly people.

Below are a few more scriptures from the Bible that speak on correction:

• The one who will not use the rod hates his son, but the one who loves him disciplines him diligently. (Proverbs 13:24)
• Apply your heart to instruction, and your ears to words of knowledge. Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell. (Proverbs 23:12-14)
• The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. (Proverbs 29:15)

Below is an article touching on the nonsense of our justice system:

• According to Fox News Latino – In Corpus Christi Texas, A mom was sentenced to probation and has lost custody of her children for spanking her daughter. The article said: Rosalina Gonzales of Corpus Christi pleaded guilty on Wednesday to injury to a child for swatting the 2-year-old on her buttocks. According to prosecutors, Gonzales in December hit the girl with an open hand, leaving red marks. Police arrested Gonzales after the childʼs grandmother reported the injuries and took the child to a hospital. Gonzales will serve five yearsʼ probation, take parenting classes and follow guidelines laid out by Child Protective Services. KZTV10.com reports that the ruling judge in the case make it clear that spanking is a crime. “You donʼt spank children today.” Judge Jose Longoria is quoted as having said. “In the old days, maybe we got spanked, but there was different quarrel. You donʼt spank children.” Published June 21, 2011 / Fox News Latino

Now, there is one last thing I want to touch on, and that is sex educating our children. I believe we as parents have failed our children in this area by giving them the impression that sex is evil and nasty. For how many of you have talked to your children about sex, explaining to them where babies come from? Didn’t God ordain sex in the first place, telling us to be fruitful and multiply? So, why do we find it so difficult to educate them in this very important part of life? And the truth is, they’re going to find out about it one way or another. So, wouldn’t it be best that you teach them the truth about sex while they're still young? And this especially before they learn about it the wrong way on their own. For God's word does say to train a child in the way they should go? (Proverbs 22:6)

Again, in Deuteronomy 6:7 it says to teach them when you're lying down, and rising up as well. Therefore, teaching them about sex at an early age will help them be ready when they find a mate. So, am I suggesting that you have an open-door policy and let your children watch you having sex? Well, even though there are parents who do that, they can end up in jail and have their children taken from them. However, I do believe the worst thing for a couple to do is to panic when their child does happen to walk in on them doing their act. For this will only convey the false message that sex is dirty and wrong. Just consider it sex education up front and personal, and a good time to tell them how babies are made.

In the past and I'm sure in the present, children who have grown up on farms were able to witness some farm animals in their act of mating. This would naturally allow them to ask and learn that this is how creatures, including their mom and dad make babies. So, it would be learning sex education through nature itself. Unfortunately, children these days don't have this convenient way of learning the facts of life. Therefore, it's you the parent that needs to step up and teach them God’s truths on this before they learn it outside the home environment. And please don't rely on our school system to teach your children about sex. For we need to stand up against those in our government who think they know better than God. For to fail teaching your children in this area of life could only bring hardship, not only on your child when he gets older, but on you the parent as well.

Let’s dare to stand on God’s word and not follow man’s false teachings. Let’s use God given wisdom and discernment in everything we do, relying on the Holy Spirit to be our teacher. For: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13). Amen.

• Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him. (Genesis 18:18-19)
• Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons; Specially the day that thou stoodest before the LORD thy God in Horeb, when the LORD said unto me, Gather me the people together, and I will make them hear my words, that they may learn to fear me all the days that they shall live upon the earth, and that they may teach their children. (Deuteronomy 4:9-10)
• And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)
• Give ear, O my people, to my law: incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old: Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done. For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments: And might not be as their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation [that] set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not stedfast with God. (Psalm 78:1-8)
• And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4)

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