To the reader: I do realize that this article may be uncomfortable for some of my brothers and sisters in Christ. So, if you’re one who limits yourself to what goes on in the marriage bed, you may not want to read on. However, if you’re willing to explore and see if you have more options, please prayerfully continue to read through. But for the rest of you who are mature in the faith, I hope this article encourages you to grow in the knowledge that you already have. So, wherever your faith may take you, please richly enjoy sexual intimacy with your spouse.

Now, those of us who are married should know that the sexual act between a man and a woman can bring about the most intense physical pleasure. And it’s for a good reason. For it’s one of those pleasures of life that brings forth new life into this world. So, this being the case, doesn’t it make sense that God would make it intensely pleasurable? And let’s remember what God’s word says in Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled” which means marriage is good for everyone and that sexual intimacy is not to be viewed as dirty, defiling or unholy. And let’s also remember that we ourselves are here because our parents (whether they were married or not) had a sexual encounter as well. So, however we came into this world, let's thank God we’re here. For we can take what may have been a bad situation, and turn it into a blessing instead. I say this because I have seen it happen myself.

I would like to point out that there are health factors involved in sex for both the man and woman. For science has shown that the man’s semen contains components that can helps enhance a woman’s mood. And not only that, it can help provide a safer pregnancy as well. Also, for the man that keeps sexually active, he can help fight-off prostate cancer (see below for these studies). So, “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV) Therefore, a couple should make an effort to keep sexually active, whether they're young newlyweds or well advanced in years. (See links at the bottom of this article for studies concerning the health benefits for men, women and even children)

Now, I have found that God’s word is like a puzzle. For it’s put together in such a way to cause us to study through it in order to piece things together. This way, if the enemy does come and try to remove a few pieces from it, we still can see the big picture. Therefore, we can rely on God's word for everything that pertains to life, both past, present and even our future. Now, though my studies I've found that God has provided ways for us to function even in our infirmities. And one of those areas we may struggle in is the area of sex. Because let’s face it, there are some of you who may not always (or even cannot) have a normal sexual relationship. Therefore, God provides us with sexual acts that are not only beneficial, but are very pleasurable as well. For God “giveth us richly all things to enjoy.” (1 Timothy 6:17).

So that being said, let’s not judge others for what they do on their marriage bed. For God know what we are dealing with and struggling with. Because: “All things are permitted, but not all things are of benefit. All things are permitted, but not all things build people up.” (1 Corinthians 10:23 NASB20)

Now, we must understand that sexual issues are a result of the fall of mankind which occurred back in the garden of Eden. For before the fall, we read that God said in Genesis 1:31, “And God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, it was very good.” So, all was well in God’s creation. However, we read after the fall that God said to the woman in Genesis 3:16, “I will greatly multiply your sorrow in childbearing; in sorrow you shall bring forth children.” And we can see this not only in the hardships associated with the actual giving of birth, but in the grief of miscarriages, stillborn, and birth defects which took place down the road.

Now, from what we can read in Genesis, siblings did conceive children by having sex with each other. And because conception occurred within the family tree, there wouldn’t be miscarriages and other issues as we see today. But we know as time progressed, corruption started to take effect in our family gene pool. Therefore, during the time of Moses, God made it a law restricting all sibling marriages from that point on. This is because family defects could be easily passed on to the next generation if siblings continued to mate and have children within their family unit. However, because of this law that forbade siblings to continue to have offspring, another issued occurred. For the further away a couple is from each other’s family gene pool, the greater the chances are for a miscarriage to occur. It’s kind of like donating an organ. So, further the donor is from the recipient’s family, the greater the chance for their body to reject the organ.

That all being said, we can see why it’s important for a woman to expose herself to her husband’s semen before and even after conception. For studies have shown that a woman literally becomes one flesh with a man when she receives his semen into her body. This would be true however she receives it. This is because she actually receives his DNA though the act of sex, thus becoming one with him (see the links below for these studies). It’s kind of like “you are what you eat.” Therefore, we see that the words of Jesus to be true when he said: “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?” (Matthew 19:4-5) Yes, Jesus himself said that a woman becomes “one flesh” with her man. 

Now, as mentioned earlier, we can see that a weekly sexual release for men can help maintain their prostate and reduce the risk of cancer. So, that is why it’s important for a woman to engage her husband in a weekly sexual act. But what about those men who don’t have a wife (or who have one that doesn’t care about his sexual needs) Well, there are other ways he could take care of that (see the link at the bottom of this article, “Use it or Lose it”) And again, this all goes back to what was said before. For we shouldn’t judge anyone for what goes on in the marriage bed or behind closed doors. Because if God’s word does not right out condemn it, we shouldn’t ether. Amen.

Now, there is something else which is good and even healthy, and that is circumcision. Yes, by removing the foreskin on the man’s sexual organ, it lessens the chances of infections and diseases for the man. Also, it makes sex much more pleasant for the woman by eliminating the odors that can occur from being uncircumcised. Now, in the past when Adam was naked and not ashamed, this extra fold of skin was necessary to protect his most sensitive part. However, those days are now gone because of the fall of man. Thus, our clothing is now a suitable source of protection.

So, we can see why God would come up with the covenant of circumcision. For God promised Abraham that he would be the father of many nations by giving him a son through his barren wife Sarah. And we know for this promise to come about, Abraham would have to be sexually intimate with Sarah. And as said before, by removing the foreskin, sex becomes overall healthier and more pleasant, not only for the man, but for the woman as well. Therefore, I believe it was appropriate for God to make such a covenant. For again, it’s the sexual act that not only brings about the most intense pleasure but one that brings forth new life into this world as well. And yes, we do see Paul the apostle speaking negatively concerning circumcision at times. However, this was because some Christians were making it a law and a requirement for salvation. However, that’s not the case if one is doing it strictly for health reasons.

Below are a few passages from the Bible’s Song of Songs chapters. Contained within the pages of this book are descriptions of the human body as well as sexual intimacy through the use of metaphors. So, read through its pages asking God to bring out its rich meanings. And let’s remember that God’s word says we are “fearfully and wonderfully made,” and that he gave us “all things richly to enjoy.” So please do enjoy. Amen. (Psalm 139:14) (Timothy 6:17)

Bible references to the beauty of the human body:

• I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys.” Here we have the wife who is describing herself as lily. “As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.” (Song of Songs 2:1-2)
• A garden enclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed. Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard, Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices: A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon.” (Song of Songs 4:12-15)
• My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand. His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven. His eyes are as the eyes of doves by the rivers of waters, washed with milk, and fitly set. His cheeks are as a bed of spices, as sweet flowers: his lips like lilies, dropping sweet smelling myrrh. His hands are as gold rings set with the beryl: his belly is as bright ivory overlaid with sapphires. His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars. His mouth is most sweet: yea, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.” (Song of Songs 5:10-16)

Bible scriptures concerning the beauty of desiring and admiring your spouse:

• Drink waters out of your own cistern, and running waters out of your own well. Should your overflowing spring be scattered abroad as rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only your own, and not strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. Like the loving deer and pleasant doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times, and be ravished always with her love. And why will you, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? For the ways of man are before the eyes of Jehovah, and He watches all his paths. (Proverbs 5:15-21)
• As a lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters. (Song of Songs 2:2 ASV)
• As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.” (Song of Songs 2:3)
• Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.” (Song of Songs 4:16)
• How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights! This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes. I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples” (Song of Songs 7:6-8) Note: Here we have a reference to the husband engaging his wife in sexual intimacy. Climbing up a palm tree is a practice still done today to help pollinate the Date Palms. They climb the tree and take hold of the branches and spread them apart to get to the female part of the tree. So, this is a clear picture of a man going into his wife. (Click here to see video on Date Tree Pollination)
  
   

So, I hope and pray that this article would be a help in your marriage relationship. For we must put away any doctrines and teachings that makes sex look dirty or even evil. But that being said, we must also realize that marriage only pertains to this present life. Therefore, the bible also says that even though we can freely marry and engage in this relationship, we shouldn’t let it be the main focus of our lives (1 Corinthians 7:29-31) For there is a world of people out there who desperately needs to hear the message of the gospel. So, let’s enjoy our marriage while making the gospel our main aim above all. Amen.

“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love." (Proverbs 5:18-19 NKJV)

God bless you as you seek to do his will, Amen.

Below is some helpful information concerning sexual intimacy. These are articles and medical studies that show not only the benefits for both the man and the woman, but for any future children (including the one in the womb) as well:

• Mood Enhancer 
• Sex for older couples
• Women receive and retain male DNA through sex - Article 1
• Women receive and retain male DNA through sex - Article 2
• Sex for a safer pregnancy - Article 1
• Sex for a safer pregnancy - Article 2
• Sex for a safer pregnancy - Video
• Ejaculation Frequency for a healthy prostate
• Use it or Lose it
• Science behind Ejaculation Frequency - Is it actually better?
• The Real Story of Ruth

Below are some other Christian websites and a few videos on marital intimacy:

• theforgivenwife.com
• daveandashleywillis.com
• Sex in Marriage
• Intimacy in Marriage
• Benefits of Sex Video set

(Note: Below are versions used other than then the King James Version) 

• ESV = The Holy Bible, English Standard Version copyright © 2001, 2007, 2011, 2016 by Crossway Books and Bibles, a Publishing Ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
• NKJV = New King James Version, © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. All rights reserved. Used by permission.
• NASB20 = New American Standard Bible 2020 Copyright (c) 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995, 2020 by The Lockman Foundation, La Habra, Calif. All rights reserved.
• ASV = Thomas Nelson & Sons first published the American Standard Version in 1901. This translation of the Bible is in the public domain.

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To the Reader: It is my intent fellow brothers (and sisters) in Christ, to remind you of what God’s word says concerning this somewhat controversial topic. For we must break away from the doctrines of men and follow the truth of God’s word. So, I ask that you read and prayerfully consider what’s being said below concerning the act of masturbation. Now, my focus is mainly pertaining to men because of the health benefits available to them. And sense I am a man as well, I don’t feel that I’m qualified to comment on women who engage in this act.

However, that doesn’t mean that you women should avoid reading this article. For if you’re married and care about you husbands’ heath, you may find this article to be helpful as well. So, please read on with an open mind and prayerfully consider what’s being said. And remember to only go where your conscience would allow you to go. For if you are one who feels uncomfortable with masturbation, then please don’t do it. For even Paul the apostle said: “Do you have faith? Have it to yourself before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what he approves. But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because he does not eat from faith; for whatever is not from faith is sin.” (Romans 14:22-23 NKJV) So, even though that passage pertains to food, it should also include anything else that we may do.

“Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” (2Ti 2:15)

There are studies out there which show that a weekly sexual release of semen can help maintain a man’s prostate and reduce his risk of cancer. Therefore, you wives should engage your husband in a weekly sexual act. And of course, for you men who do not have a wife (or you have one that doesn’t care much about your sexual health and needs), there is always masturbation. And no, masturbation is not a sin if it’s done without the use of pornography or wrongful lustful thoughts for women. For in Leviticus where we read of sexual restrictions, we don’t see any restriction against masturbation. For we only read that: “When a man has a seminal emission, he must bathe his whole body in water and be unclean until evening, and he must wash in water any clothing or leather that has semen on it, and it will be unclean until evening. When a man has sexual intercourse with a woman and there is a seminal emission, they must bathe in water and be unclean until evening.” (Leviticus 15:16-18) So, if God wanted to restrict masturbation, wouldn’t he have included it here in Leviticus. For we must remember that our bodies exist in a fallen state.

Therefore, I believe that God has allowed certain act to help us maintain our health. And again, this would include masturbation to help fight prostate cancer. And let’s remember that God’s word says: “Everything is permissible,’ but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible,’ but not everything builds up.” (1 Corinthians 10:23) So, anything that is not restricted in the law of Moses, should be allowed if it “builds up” or maintains one’s health. In other words, it should be fruitful as well as beneficial. And according to some studies listed below, masturbation is all that. So, ladies, let’s be diligent to engage your husbands in a weekly sexual act. And for you single men who are having prostate issues, you may need to engage yourselves in this act.

Masturbation should not be an excuse to crack open a porno magazine to fuel one's lustful passions. For that woman who is posing before you could be a married woman (sad, but true). And let’s remember that Jesus said: “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28 ESV) So again, masturbation should only be done in such a way that would not be offending to God. And this would only be true if your conscience allows you to go there. So, please always seek God in everything you do. And do some studying on you own concerning this topic. Therefore: “Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” (2 Timothy 2:15)

God bless you as you seek to do His will. Amen.

Studies that show a weekly release of semen is healthy for men:

• Ejaculation Frequency for a healthy prostate
• Science behind Ejaculation Frequency - Is it actually better?

What other Christians have to say:

• The "M" Word
• Is Masturbation a Sin?

For More Information on Marital Intimacy Click Link Below

• A True Marriage

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